This month I turned 30! The big 3 0. I didn’t spend it in Sorrento as I’d planned but my partner Rob still tried to make it as special as possible so it turned out to be a nice day considering we’re all trapped at home right now!
Turning 30 really makes you think about your life though. It’s a big milestone, I’m halfway to 60 now and that’s scary! But this is the point where I’ve learned enough about life to make the next 30 years as great as possible (or so I say now!)
I’m putting my 20’s down as trial run, so much happened and so much went wrong that quite honestly I feel like I’ve lived a full life already!
Here’s a break down:
At 21: Me and my first partner split up
At 22: I lost my dad to lung cancer.
At 23: I went to work on cruise ships and travelled the world
At 24: I met my now partner and I moved to Gloucester with him
At 26: Diagnosed with a spinal tumour and had an operation and radiotherapy
At 27: Brought a house and changed career
At 29: Another tumour diagnosis, another operation, and more radiotherapy. Lost my hair 🙁
At 30: Coronavirus ruins my birthday plans!
You see, I don’t know what more I can possibly go through. But As I’m writing this I’m smiling. I’m still here writing this post, the sun is beaming and my little beagle bum is napping next to me.
My own personal quote that I like to remind myself of every now and then is this:
You wouldn’t know how to enjoy the good moments if you hadn’t had any bad ones
All the things that I’ve been through have taught me 10 very valuable lessons that I know will stick with me for the rest of my life.
1.Your true friends will always be there for you no matter what
Don’t feel bad for losing touch with people or not being social, life is busy and true friends will understand that.
I’ve had many friends in the past that I’ve lost touch with and it’s been obvious who the ones are that care about the friendship and the ones who didn’t.
The ones who did care made an effort and I made an effort too. It needs to be 50/50, don’t be doing all the chasing.
2.Experiences are worth more than any possessions
At the end of your life you won’t be thinking “I wish I’d brought that Gucci bag”, you’ll be thinking “I wish I’d seen more of the world” instead.
I don’t at all remember any of the things I brought when I first started earning a wage. I was buying clothes, jewellery you name it but I honestly can’t remember those things for the life of me now.
What I do remember is the places I’ve visited in my life, the friendships I’ve built and the experiences I’ve had. They make me who I am and they’ve taught me so much more than any Gucci bag ever will.
3. Being a bitch gets you nowhere
It’s easy to get annoyed when things don’t go your way but poor old Lucy doesn’t need to be huffed at or shouted at the other end of the phone because you’ve been on hold for 30 minutes!
You may or may not believe in karma but even if you don’t, does it hurt to be nice? If you only want to be treated kindly then you must treat others kindly. That’s how it works.
4. Take time to figure out your passions early in life
Ohh I wish I’d done this sooner!
I was one of those people who didn’t go to Uni because I didn’t know what I wanted to do. I got a job when I left school and just fell into Retail management.
Was that my passion? No way!
I just didn’t know what was. What I should have done was spend some time really figuring it out. I really do believe that if you do what you love for a living you’ll never have to work a day in your life.
5. Your health is SUPER important
Take it from someone who neglected their health for almost 30 years. I never ate a single veg when I was younger and had ready meals or take-away’s regularly.
At age 26 I was diagnosed with a spinal tumour to which I needed an operation and radiotherapy. I’m not saying that was the reason for the tumour but I realise now that I would have been more equipped health-wise to deal with it and handle it if I had been a healthier person.
6. Believe in yourself more and invest time and money in your abilities
If Jeff Bezos or Mark Zuckerberg hadn’t don’t so then there would be no Facebook or no Amazon. They believed in their abilities and their dreams.
There is no other you in the world and this is your super power
7. Life doesn’t EVER go to plan
There are some things you just can’t predict in life, like sudden ill health for example.
The best thing to do in my opinion is to find a balance between planning for your future and living in the moment.
If you believe in the Law of Attraction, you need to relax and let the universe guide you sometimes. If you don’t believe in the LOA then you need to watch this video right now! It’s a little old and lengthy but definitely worth your time.
8. Nothing changes if nothing changes
If you’re not happy in life but you keep doing what you always do then your life will stay exactly as it is.
Mix it up and take more opportunities. Magic happens outside of your comfort zone.
9. No one really CARES about you
What I mean by that is that strangers really couldn’t care less if you spend your time preaching to others about your beliefs. They might get annoyed or talk about it but do they care really? No. Do they pay your bills? No.
So don’t let that stop you from living how YOU want to live. You care, they don’t.
10. Learn to love yourself
You’ve probably heard this phrase already, no one will love you if you don’t love yourself.
Well, that’s only partly true. A lot of people will love you no matter what and will always see the good parts of you. However, loving yourself means you don’t need to rely on others’ love and that can be very valuable.
Do you have any life lessons you’ve picked up along the way that are worth sharing?
Thanks for reading <3